I recently read the book, No More Christian Nice Girl by Paul Coughlin and Jennifer D. Degler, PhD.
This is a hard one for me to review. I rarely find books that I don’t like, but well, I found one in this. Don’t get me wrong, I really like the idea behind the book, but I just don’t feel it was presented well at all.
The idea behind the story is that Christian women tend to be too nice….we worry too much about saying “yes” to everyone, and don’t know when to stand our ground. I’ll give an amen to that, as I wholeheartedly agree! This book offers practical advice for learning to say no when we need to, and to worry ourselves more with being “good” and Christ-like, rather than nice. The life of Christ is illustrated to point out that Jesus was not ALWAYS nice, which is so true! He stood up to those who needed standing up to, and His words and actions were sometimes quite harsh. We, who call ourselves Christians, or followers of Christ, need to follow ALL of Jesus’ example, not just the one-dimensional “nice guy” that we tend to see all of the time.
Now, I agree with all of it, and I appreciated the points made in this book. In fact, I could really use a self-help book just like this to help me learn to say no! I say yes too often and end up feeling resentful when I have too much to do. My problem with this book is in the presentation of the idea. I felt that the authors spent too much time exhibiting sarcasm, and even immaturity as they made their points. For example, the talk of the woman in Samaria who was deemed unclean because of a “perpetual menstrual problem”. Or the insinuation that when Jesus turned the water to wine, he was really being a show off who encouraged drunkenness, but that we as Christians ignore the reality.
I’m going to give this book 3 stars, because I do think that the idea behind it is a great one. It just wasn’t MY type.
*I received no monetary compensation for my review. I was given the book free of charge by Bethany House Publishers in exchange for my honest review. These opinions are mine, and mine alone!