So, as you know, I’m on a mission to better deal with my stresses in life. I came across this great article from HelpGuide.org. It shares the 4 A’s of dealing with stress:
* Avoid the stressor.
* Alter the stressor.
* Adapt to the stressor.
* Accept the stressor.
#1: Avoid unnecessary stress
* Learn how to say “no” – Know your limits and stick to them.
* Avoid hot-button topics – If you get upset over religion or politics, cross them off your conversation list.
* Pare down your to-do list – Analyze your schedule, responsibilities, and daily tasks. If you’ve got too much on your plate, distinguish between the “shoulds” and the “musts.”
#2: Alter the situation
* Express your feelings instead of bottling them up.
* Be willing to compromise.
* Be more assertive. Don’t take a backseat in your own life.
#3: Adapt to the stressor
* Reframe problems. Try to view stressful situations from a more positive perspective. Rather than fuming about a traffic jam, look at it as an opportunity to pause and regroup, listen to your favorite radio station, or enjoy some alone time.
* Adjust your standards. Stop setting yourself up for failure by demanding perfection.
* Focus on the positive. When stress is getting you down, take a moment to reflect on all the things you appreciate in your life, including your own positive qualities and gifts.
#4: Accept the things you can’t change
* Look for the upside. As the saying goes, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.”
* Share your feelings. Talk to a trusted friend or make an appointment with a therapist.
* Learn to forgive. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world and that people make mistakes.
Here’s a list of activities I’ll be using when feeling stressed…feel free to add your own ideas as well:
* Go for a walk.
* Sweat out tension with a good workout.
* Write in your journal.
* Take a long bath.
* Work in your garden.
* Get a massage.
* Curl up with a good book.
* Listen to music.
* Watch a comedy
Here’s to destressing!